Child Adoption

I fail to understand why it is so difficult for me to update my blog or for that matter keep the pace of something which I took under my umbrella :( Well I know I am never gonna find the answer so lets leave that aside.

Today I am blogging my opinion on a cause or action which is close to my heart. I am putting down some discussions surrounding my "Hot Topic Of Today" (Please see the title of blog) which I had with people surrounding me (friends, colleagues, family)

I seriously don’t understand why people have issues with adoption. I can understand this coming from uneducated and poor person but it really maddens me if some highly educated and sophisticated person gives negative reaction about child adoption.

I tried too hard to understand their point of view but I failed to arrive at any logical end. Couple of weeks back I was talking to one of my colleague and somehow child adoption found its way in our discussion (since I know majority of my people surround me doesn’t have positive attitude about adoption I avoid talking about it with them)

I am going to follow same pattern of writing my discussion with my colleague as I did in my post "Unhealthy competition". Let’s call this colleague of mine as "Colleague". So here you go …..

Me: I would love to adopt a kid and sponsor 2-3 kids.
Colleague: You can have your OWN child
Me: Adopted child will be mine
Colleague: By your own I mean biologically yours
Me: How does it matter?
Colleague: It matters. Having your own child gives you sense of completeness
Me (I was extremely pissed): Child brings Mother into world. No woman or man is born with in-build parenthood. Child is responsible for making you realize of that feeling and responsibility. So I don’t understand what difference biological or adopted child will make.
Colleague (he put full stop to the discussion because I feel he was out of reason): Yeah we will talk when you are married.

Whole discussion brought lot of anger inside me. Why we refuse to raise ourselves beyond so called society norms? Why can’t we think logically and reason with ourselves every second? Why do we have to stick to rules? I feel in today's we need to be more active towards child adoption than anything else. They have every right to live life respectfully. When we are born we are like empty workbook waiting to be filled. Today's educated people can utilize their knowledge and bring joy to child's life. But no we are scared of taking responsibility. We can crib about issues but we can not help to resolve them. Child adoption needs love so in a way its good these people don’t opt for adoption. But I wish my people breakthrough their myths and rise above their mentality and think more rationally.

And yes I plea to my people that if you can not give a child his due love and respectful atmosphere then please don’t adopt. And also please don’t adopt a child just because you are not able to give birth to biological kid (as per me this is crime)

I just want to conclude this post with one statement of Oprah Winfrey “Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother.”