WHAT IS CHOICE?

After naming my blog as “importanceofchoices” I am now asking myself what is Choice? It might sound stupid and funny but those who understood where I am going will know I am talking sense (sometimes its good to talk non sense also J). Choice literally means option, selection, alternative, pick and frankly saying coz of literal meaning I named my blog as “importanceofchoices” (its true that I was inspired by Richard Bach’s ‘One’ but I don’t want to give him full credit for my thoughts). I realize that I should look for deeper meaning of Choice. What is it exactly? Is it the most important ingredient in life’s recipe (I can think of comparing my thoughts with recipe coz unfortunately I am cooking everyday and I really pity people who have to eat food cooked by me ;-)) Is choice ONLY going to decide my destiny? And more important question is does destiny exist? (I am asking this question in this post coz I strongly feel that it will help me to understand choice better)So let me try to see if I can answer my question about Destiny and whether I can correlate them (at least I can try).

To be honest I don’t believe in Destiny, luck, fate, whatever you call it. I find it just an excuse made by people who does not achieve their dreams. No one’s fate is pre decided. Everyone has to search their own path. I can see glass half filled or half empty choice is up to me. What I choose to see or go is completely up to me (See I told you if we talk about Destiny we will end up at CHOICE but I never thought it will be so soon) I know for sure that I am going to design my destiny. I and only I will know where I will be after couple of years. There is nothing called luck, kismet. What really exist are WORK, ABILITY and YES CHOICE. By choosing certain path I will reach some destination and how that destination will look is decided by what I do along the path. Lets say I started walking on my chosen path (of beautiful life with my beloved) with my beloved one (signifies non materialistic thing). Along the path I become greedy and I kill my beloved one so I can get all its belongings (signifies materialistic thing). When I reach my destination I realize it’s not the way I thought it will be there is something missing. What I don’t realize is I have changed my chosen path by my own deed. It would be unfair to say that only choice will decide what future will be like. In reality it is the combination of CHOICE and ACT which plays the trick. What PATH I choose and what I DO on my chosen path are very important to achieve my dreams.

I reached the end of tunnel and my light is coming from the thought that THERE IS NO DESTINY AND MOST IMPORTANT INGRIDENT OF LIFE ARE CHOICES AND ACT

Good Job Purnashilpa!!! (It is always advisable to praise yourself once. Let me tell you one secret come near actually no one praises me and to fill that space in my life I have to praise myself.)

Why Do We Regret Our Choice?

Lot of times it happens in our lives that we make decision based on circumstances. Our choices are governed by others (at least its true to larger extent for Indians). We are bound to choose something coz we have been brought up in the environment where what is right or wrong is decided by society and what they accept or follow becomes right. You are not free to try on something or choose something which society doesn’t approve unless you are from Upper middle class family or from high society. Rules differ from society to society and so choices. I can choose to be single or plan to marry when I am late 30’s if I am not in lower middle class family. And if I happen to be from lower middle class and choose/decide to marry @ late 30’s then will society allow me to? Will they let me live peacefully without bad mouthing or pointing finger on my character? Will the so called sophisticated Indian men stop themselves from not taking advantage of a single female in late 30’s? It’s true for higher society also but then it gets hidden beside your status and money (trust me power of money is infinite, can shut any mouth)

I am not complaining about anything. All that I am saying is our choices get limited or horizons are not wide. What I guess we do is to choose whatever best is available in choice departments for that time and circumstances. Everyone regrets some decision of past. We can’t deny that. People who say that I have no regrets are lying in my eyes. How can u not regret any of your decisions? And if you are not then you telling people that whatever you choose proved out to be best for you. And my thinking tells me we can’t hit bullseye every time we make choices in our lives. We are humans who are prone to mistakes more than anything else in life. Yes we will not regret our choices only if we accept the effect of our choices or get adjusted with new life or try to make best out of worst. Yes!!!! That’s the only time when we (at least I) won’t regret my choice. But (there is always but in the route guys) it’s not easy not to think about your wrong choice which has landed you in the mess (or lighter version of mess depending upon what you choose). Might be you are able to forget your choice but I am not. I made lot of choices in my life and lot of times I regret making those. I am just being honest. And funny thing is (or I should say scary) I keep making choices which I tend to regret. Some months back also I made a choice (though it was not what I wanted to choose but I gave up in front of societies rule or let me be honest again I didn’t have guts and power and support to fight with society) and I am regretting it and worst is I can’t go back and correct it or choose a different option. I guess I got the answer. You regret your choice when you are force to choose something (this is the time your heart tells you to choose right one but your mind asks you to choose wrong option). Since you have limited options open you tend to choose which you think is best and SAFE. Yes we are fearful people. We always want to play safe. The choices which look safe generally put us into lot of trouble and mess.

Conclusion is Choose what you think is right for you. Don’t always play safe sometimes it’s best to take risks (I must admit here that I don’t have guts to take risks), what is socially right might not be right in your case.

The best thing to do is CHOOSE FROM WHATEVER IS AVAILABLE FOR YOU BUT IF YOU ARE NOT SATISFIED THEN GATHER SOME GUTS AND STRENGTH AND GET YOURSELF IN THE BATTLEFIELD AND MOST IMPORTANT LOOK FORWARD TO WIN. DON’T FORCE YOURSELF TO CHOOSE SOMETHING IT WON’T MAKE YOU HAPPY

"I Want TO Forget My Past" - Is It Possible?

I am not sure what exactly we mean when we say “I want to forget my past”. Everyone says this once in their lifetime for sure (now comon don’t lie). Are we trying to say we want to erase everything happened in our past, everyone we met, every moment we spend. If this is what it means then how can we do it? Isn’t it foolish? I thought about this when I said to one of my very very dear friend “I want to forget everything about my past. Why people have to judge me on my past? Why they have to look back into my past every single moment?” and he just said one thing which made me think about what I have just said to him. He said “If you want to forget past then dear I am part of your past. Forgetting your past means forgetting everyone whom you met in between.” I said “I didn’t mean that………” but unknowingly didn’t I mean that. So what is it? What we mean by this one particular sentence “I want to forget my past”

People do crazy things to forget their past. They start running or should I say hiding themselves from people they know (how? Change your contact number as many times as you can simple for them), change their locations whenever they want to “Forget their past and live new life” (I don’t understand how changing location makes any difference unless and until we don’t change the way we think and act?), give false information about themselves. Do they succeed? Can they erase it completely? When I put my mind over it (trust me nowadays I got lot of time to do this kind of weird stuff which for my own pleasure I call intellectual) I realized it’s not difficult but impossible to forget one’s past. What is possible though is to live with it and accept it. What we humans can do is to accept our mistakes and learn from them. This will make our lives simpler and beautiful. How far can we run from our past? World is round and small. We are bound to meet our past sooner or later. We need to think before acting on anything which might reduce the chances of our saying (you might have guessed it and I am sure your guess is right). Mind separates human being from other living creature so if we start respecting this beautiful organ of our body then we might learn to live with our past.

My verdict after thinking about “I………..” is ONE CAN NEVER RUN AWAY FROM PAST. IT’S IMPOSSIBLE. ONE SHOULD ACCEPT IT AND LIVE WITH IT GRACEFULLY AND WITH DIGNITY. LIKE YOUR FUTURE AND PRESENT YOUR PAST ALSO NEEDS RESPECT.

PS:- It’s all in the choices we make in our lives. Now you understand why I name my blog says www.importanceofchoices.blogspot.com and my posts says “Way Of Thinking”

Unnamed

I came to know about your coming
And from that moment my heart started beating
As fast as it could so that it won’t stop after seeing you
I was waiting for that moment to come
When I can see you all of a sudden
You did came but not in front of me
You also tried to ignored every bit of me
I was sitting there surrounded by people
Waiting for you to come and share
Those moments were painful
Where I can see you but can’t claim
Albeit I know you better than them
Though I have full rights on you
I can’t show it in front of this troop
They are claiming you as theirs
And I am watching it feebly as ever
Breaking up with you made me travel till here
The path ahead is unknown and unfamiliar
No one is to blame for this situation
Since this is what I have chosen

What's Love?

How do you know that you are in love?
When can you say you can feel love?
I always asked these questions to myself
Until the day I fell in love.
I forgot my happiness, my sorrows
My success, my losses
I don’t remember anything except you.
Your sadness makes me sad
Your happiness makes me happy
Your goals became mine
And that was the time I realized
When you can’t remember anything about yourself
And live in someone else’s happiness and sadness
That is the moment you should know
You were hit by cupid’s bow.
But in my case I know cupid did a mistake
His arrow hit the wrong target
“I Love you” but you are not mine
You didn’t say it but you gave all the signs.
I took time to accept things and,
Now I know what love is.
It’s not imprisoning someone
It’s not even forcing him to love
It’s all about letting that person go
Giving him freedom to choose.
Love is loving person without being selfish
It’s all about finding your happiness in his.
That’s why I let you go and
I moved on with your love in my heart.

Medical Tests

Medical tests can be so stressful. I am suppose to clear medical check up before I can fly overseas as per company policy. So I fasted for 12 hours (now you must be thinking that’s worst part but it’s not for me. I can stay without eating) and visited Ranbaxy for my overseas medical tests. And when I saw the list of test I almost fainted. Trust me there was nothing left to be tested except HIV which they already did before I joined this company. So they asked me to fill up the form which I did as fast as I could since my only target for that morning was to get out from that place. Now here I am waiting for them to call my name for X-ray. Till this it was bearable. In a split second I found myself on the bed and one person with syringe in his hand ready to suck blood out of me. Gosh!!!! What is he doing and how come I am here? Did they medicate me? Nay it was I who agreed to enter that room but I don’t remember all that. Maybe the amount of blood he was taking out from my body made me forget everything happened in last ½ hour. He removed 4 test tubes of blood from me and he didn’t even pay for that!!! Does he realize how much effort (I mean eating properly) I have to put to get back that lost blood? Well after sucking my blood like leech he asked me to proceed for physical examination. I thought it won’t be that bad but surprises are always waiting for me and the moment I opened door and entered physical examination room doc asked me to weigh myself. After seeing the weight it looked like I got an electric shock I lost 3 kg and I am down to 40!!!!!!!!! Doc didn’t seem to miss that too. She gave me a good nice lecture on healthy life. That lecture seem to be never ending for me and I thought medical check ups are complete No No to me but how can you escape these if you are going overseas (damn these company policies). Well these reports are valid for 6 months so by the time I gain all the blood I lost they will be ready to suck it again. But for 6 months at least I don’t have to see those needles.

HELLO

Hello, how are you?
It’s wonderful to see you
Never thought we will meet again
For sure not in this way
Your eyes still reminds me of
The time we first met
It still has that innocence
Which made me forget myself
You are still the same
Except a very small change
I am sure that I don’t have to tell
You passed by me and stood beside your mate
Trust me that particular moment my heart ache
The person you choose is my best friend.
I wish I had told you before “How much I love you”
Maybe then I would have been “Bride” Instead of “Brides Mate”
Hello, How are you? And now I wish you well in every other sense

Didn’t realized how I felt for you
Was it love or just a desire?
How can someone be so sure
While naming his feeling as love
If we can sense them inside
Then how can we later deny?
I saw people in love
Doing stuff even which they are not sure
Too confused to label my feelings
I am still on the verge of searching
My folks back home told
Love need to be experienced and not told
But my mate told it’s just a verb
Whom to believe I am not aware
I am still the beginner in this world.

How I got Introduced To Richard Bach's Writing?

Past couples of months were not very gorgeous for me. Life was not taking shape the way I wanted it to. Suddenly my creative mind was destructing everything I built. I don’t know how and when my mind turned into monster. I left someone who was an integral part of my life my Elephant and I found myself in the middle of whirlpool. Dreams shattered. Life felt worthless. Heart stopped being happy and Mind started hating self. Where was I going? What was I thinking? Am I on right track? What am I suppose to do with myself? I keep falling in life after which getting up use to take months sometimes years. But when Elephant was there in my life everything seems to be perfect. Falling away and then getting up was not at all difficult. Facing mistakes or past was not scary. Those were the moments I had enjoyed the most. Those were the times when I faced myself more. But I changed everything and left myself for suffering. When life was not rosy I issued “One” By Richard. It was lying in my bag for weeks and then one fine day I thought of reading it. And God Bless that moment. I found it quite interesting. Life is still the same but the only difference Richard brought in my life was he really made me think on the choices I made in my life and their power, he made me analyze my life and made me criticize myself (it’s a different story that after doing that I use to let my eye get soaked). Elephants lost will always be painful and will be felt till I become soil. But I am going to respect my Elephant by trying to live my life the way Elephant wanted this is the only way I can respect MY ELEPHANT.

Richard doesn’t tell you how to live life he just make you understand that what you choose to do can make you long-term happy or long-term sad. What you choose will decide what you will become. That’s power of choices.

Power Of Choices

"Pye," I said at last, "of all the planes we could land in a pattern that goes to infinity,why did we pick these parts? Why Leslie at the piano, Richard at his fighter plane?"

"Can you guess?" she asked,glancing the question to both of us.

I scanned the two events. What did they have in common? "They were both young and lost?"
"Perspective?"Leslie suggested."Both of them had reached the moment when they needed to remember the power of choices......"