Why Do We Regret Our Choice?

Lot of times it happens in our lives that we make decision based on circumstances. Our choices are governed by others (at least its true to larger extent for Indians). We are bound to choose something coz we have been brought up in the environment where what is right or wrong is decided by society and what they accept or follow becomes right. You are not free to try on something or choose something which society doesn’t approve unless you are from Upper middle class family or from high society. Rules differ from society to society and so choices. I can choose to be single or plan to marry when I am late 30’s if I am not in lower middle class family. And if I happen to be from lower middle class and choose/decide to marry @ late 30’s then will society allow me to? Will they let me live peacefully without bad mouthing or pointing finger on my character? Will the so called sophisticated Indian men stop themselves from not taking advantage of a single female in late 30’s? It’s true for higher society also but then it gets hidden beside your status and money (trust me power of money is infinite, can shut any mouth)

I am not complaining about anything. All that I am saying is our choices get limited or horizons are not wide. What I guess we do is to choose whatever best is available in choice departments for that time and circumstances. Everyone regrets some decision of past. We can’t deny that. People who say that I have no regrets are lying in my eyes. How can u not regret any of your decisions? And if you are not then you telling people that whatever you choose proved out to be best for you. And my thinking tells me we can’t hit bullseye every time we make choices in our lives. We are humans who are prone to mistakes more than anything else in life. Yes we will not regret our choices only if we accept the effect of our choices or get adjusted with new life or try to make best out of worst. Yes!!!! That’s the only time when we (at least I) won’t regret my choice. But (there is always but in the route guys) it’s not easy not to think about your wrong choice which has landed you in the mess (or lighter version of mess depending upon what you choose). Might be you are able to forget your choice but I am not. I made lot of choices in my life and lot of times I regret making those. I am just being honest. And funny thing is (or I should say scary) I keep making choices which I tend to regret. Some months back also I made a choice (though it was not what I wanted to choose but I gave up in front of societies rule or let me be honest again I didn’t have guts and power and support to fight with society) and I am regretting it and worst is I can’t go back and correct it or choose a different option. I guess I got the answer. You regret your choice when you are force to choose something (this is the time your heart tells you to choose right one but your mind asks you to choose wrong option). Since you have limited options open you tend to choose which you think is best and SAFE. Yes we are fearful people. We always want to play safe. The choices which look safe generally put us into lot of trouble and mess.

Conclusion is Choose what you think is right for you. Don’t always play safe sometimes it’s best to take risks (I must admit here that I don’t have guts to take risks), what is socially right might not be right in your case.

The best thing to do is CHOOSE FROM WHATEVER IS AVAILABLE FOR YOU BUT IF YOU ARE NOT SATISFIED THEN GATHER SOME GUTS AND STRENGTH AND GET YOURSELF IN THE BATTLEFIELD AND MOST IMPORTANT LOOK FORWARD TO WIN. DON’T FORCE YOURSELF TO CHOOSE SOMETHING IT WON’T MAKE YOU HAPPY